Supporting Loved Ones with OCD

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in its many guises is a mental health condition in which people experience persistent and intrusive thoughts (obsessions) with the urge to perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts (compulsions), that are often targeted at relieving the emotions triggered by the intrusive thoughts (see chart).

While there are several varieties of OCD, some of the more common varieties are included below.

Contamination OCD

Individuals struggling with Contamination OCD often grapple with overwhelming fear of germs or contaminants. Such as fear of touching doorknobs, being in crowded spaces, shaking hands, sharing pens/pencils, or being in close proximity to others. This fear can lead to compulsive cleaning or avoidance of certain spaces or objects. 

Checking OCD 

Checking OCD manifests as persistent doubts and worries related to harms or mistakes. This often results in repeated checking behaviors, such as checking locks or appliances. Double, triple, and quadruple checking closed doors and windows are locked, or repeatedly checking email/social media feeds for changes updates. These types of fears can lead to challenges arriving to appointments or scheduled events on time, as well as an appearance of having great distrust in others. 

Symmetry/Order OCD 

Symmetry/Order OCD involves an intense need/desire for things to be arranged in specific ways or following particular patterns. The level of worry can result in extreme rigidity with colleagues/family members that often results in frequent arguments and difficulty with completing tasks.  

Hoarding OCD 

Hoarding OCD is characterized by difficulty discarding possessions, often leading to the accumulation of unnecessary items. This fear can often disrupt family homes and work spaces. In more extreme levels, hoarding can result in fire hazards or high expenses to maintain hoarding behavior.  

Intrusive Thoughts

Intrusive Thoughts OCD includes persistent and unwanted disturbing thoughts that cause significant distress. These are often random and may sometimes includes thoughts of harming a friend or family member, thoughts of infidelity, or harm being caused to a close friend or family member. Though these thoughts are not often an indication of intent to perform such acts, a person with intrusive thoughts OCD will often struggle to focus or engage in repetitive behavior to help distract from the intensity of the experience. 

Relationship OCD

Relationship OCD involves a person struggling with persistent and unwanted thoughts relating to their doubts and fears about the relationship. These fears can revolve around a partner’s loyalty, a relationship’s ability to last, or their own capacity to remain faithful. A person struggling with relationship OCD will often engage in compulsive behavior targeted at gaining reassurance that the relationship is ok. This struggle will often lead to high levels of stress for both members of the relationship. 

How To Offer Support:

Here are some tips to foster understanding and provide compassionate support to your loved ones:

  1. Educate Yourself: Learn more about OCD to gain insights into the thoughts, fears, and behaviors associated with the condition. Knowledge empowers understanding and empathy.

  2. Practice Patience: Living with OCD can be demanding, both for the individual and their family. Be patient and understanding, recognizing that the journey to recovery is a gradual process.

  3. Open Communication: Encourage open and non-judgmental communication. Create a safe space where your loved one feels comfortable sharing their experiences and emotions.

  4. Participate in Therapy: Support your family member in seeking therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). Offer to attend sessions together or be a source of encouragement for consistent attendance.

  5. Be Mindful of Triggers: Be aware of situations or environments that may trigger obsessive thoughts or anxiety. Collaboratively find ways to navigate and manage potential triggers.

  6. Encourage Self-Care: Emphasize the importance of self-care and stress reduction techniques. Help create a routine that includes activities promoting relaxation and well-being.

  7. Promote Flexibility: Understand that rigidity and adherence to rituals are part of OCD. Gently encourage flexibility while respecting the individual's pace in challenging these patterns.

  8. Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate even small victories. Recognizing progress fosters motivation and a positive outlook on the journey to recovery.

  9. Offer Unconditional Support: Let your loved one know that your support is unwavering. Your understanding and empathy play a crucial role in their ability to navigate the challenges of OCD.

Remember, supporting a family member with OCD is a collaborative effort. By fostering a compassionate and informed environment, you contribute significantly to their well-being. Together, we can create spaces filled with love, understanding, and hope. 💙 #OCDSupport #MentalHealthMatters #SupportiveFamilies

Genesis Urena, LCSW

Genesis Urena, LCSW, is the founder of New Hope Psychotherapy LCSW, LLC and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a passion for working with adults, children, families and couples who are seeking a transformative life experience.

Genesis is a trauma-informed specialist who believes everyone should have a safe and healing place to work through life’s challenges. He uses his role as a therapist and educator to help families and couples grow closer and develop meaningful relationships.

Rather than drawing from one methodology for all individuals and issues, Genesis draws on a variety of methods to create a tailored approach for each individual, couple, and situation. As a therapist, Genesis is encouraging, creative, and has a down-to-earth approach that is present and rewarding.

His experience includes ongoing volunteer work with community-based organizations and municipalities dedicated to bringing awareness of mental health issues across all communities, with particular focus to BIPOC communities. As well as, presenting ongoing classes on trauma, grief, and couples therapy.

He holds certificates as a Prepare-Enrich Couple’s Facilitator, Certified Sex Addictions Therapist, Trauma-Informed therapist, U.S. Military Star Behavioral Provider, and SIFI-Supervisor.

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